Don't get me wrong. My husband is beyond compare. I have not heard of anyone that can hold a candle to him. He is my lover, my confidante, and my best friend. We talk about everything and love to debate stuff. We finish each other's sentences. And we love our date nights.
But I used to leave lipstick messages on his truck windows, fill his pockets with love notes, buy him special gifts. Now I try to have freshly made iced tea at dinner, make phone calls for him, pick up his favorite chips, and leave a candy bar in his pocket. It's good, but just doesn't sound quite as romantic. I think that I could do better. It certainly couldn't hurt to try. I've never heard anyone complain that their spouse is "just too romantic." Besides, my collection of dogeared romantic idea books are a bit dusty.
So girls, buy a new nightgown and a copy of 1001 Ways to Be Romantic , my old favorite. (This is not a Christian book, and I don't recommend it for the marriage advice. But it is a large list of romantic ideas, so you can afford to skip any objectionable ones and still have lots to choose from.) These lists from that book should get your wheels turning:
223a Daily Romantic Checklist:
- Compliment your partner.
- Spend twenty minutes of uninterrupted time together.
- Check in with each other during the day.
- Perform one small and unexpected gesture.
- Say "I love you" at least three times.
- Thank your partner for something.
- Look for romantic concepts in the newspaper.
- Take an extra minute when kissing good-bye.
223b A Weekly Romantic Checklist:
- Bring home one small, unexpected gift or present.
- Share some form of physical intimacy.
- Share an entire afternoon or evening together.
- Share two insights you gained this week.
- Write at least one little love note.
- Mail something to your partner.
- Make love!
- Plan something special for the upcoming weekend.
223c A Monthly Romantic Checklist
- Plan one romantic surprise for this month.
- Re-stock your stash of greeting cards.
- Go out to dinner once or twice.
- Rent at least two romantic movies.
- Make love several times!
- Make plans for a three-day romantic weekend sometime in the next three months.
- Plan one romantic event with a seasonal theme.
223d A Yearly Romantic Checklist
- Make a New Year's resolution to be a more creative romantic.
- Make plans for your next anniversary.
- Think of an unusual way to celebrate your partner's birthday.
- Review your plans for your next vacation.
- Create a special "Romance" category in your household budget.
- Make plans for Valentine's Day well in advance!